This is how the fears of men and women differ: When a woman finds a bright and beautiful, shiny thing worth loving, she clasps it tight and holds it to her chest in the fear of ever losing it! When a man finds a bright and beautiful, shiny thing worth loving, he puts it on a pedestal, in a safe corner of the room, to look at in the sunshine and the moonlight, to wonder upon and to admonish, in the fear that his grimy hands might in some way destroy it or make it flee away from him! And so these two fears create a colossal chasm in between, driving the two sexes in opposite directions. But this chasm can be bridged; the first step is the awareness of these fears; that they are in fact there and that is in fact how they function.
The thing about fear, is that identifying them and recognizing how they function is already winning greater than half the battle. Fears can only thrive when they're hidden, like cockroaches that only come out when it's dark and once you turn the lights on, they scatter and reveal where they've been hiding! Simply recognizing and identifying the fear, is turning the light on, and while the light is on, you can do things about those fears, you can think, you can see, you can plan, you can win. You realize that they're not so great and mighty, once you're able to name them and see what they look like.
The real thing that keeps men and women apart, is fear. Women blame men and men blame women, but the culprit is fear, women are afraid of one thing, men are afraid of a different thing; the fears of women have to do with losing while the fears of men have to do with not being good enough for something. One is loss, the other is insecurity. Men are innately more insecure than women and women are innately more needful of companionship than men. It's good for both men and women to be able to recognize and identify these fears not only within themselves, but within each other, and then men and women will see that they really do need to help each other. It's not a game, it's not a competition, the two sexes need one another.
It is like the relationship between sun and moon, rain and heat, sweet and sour! Without the one, the other can't be fulfilled to it's full potential, or wouldn't even exist! Can the sun blame the moon? Can rain blame the heat? Can sweet blame sour? No, it's a cycle. These are all compliments of one another! Enough with the immaturity! The one isn't going to succeed by playing tricks on the other! The union of man and woman is created not only through the act of sex, but this union begins in spirit, in soul! And the journey begins at the first attempt!
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